Research has shown that social media can mess with our mental health and with all the people on the Internet expressing their feelings, it can get hateful and hurtful pretty fast. But a Twitter user named Abdul Dremali found a way to deal with the rude messages he gets with a positive spin.
The marketing consultant from Boston says he had a large social media following, which comes with “a lot of haters.” But he came up with a unique way to deal with insulting people. He says after years of getting defensive when someone insults him, he came up with the idea “to be overly kind as an experiment.” And it works.
A recent conversation he had sums his approach up perfectly. After getting a hateful message from a stranger telling him to “shut … up” and to “go back … wherever u came from,” Abdul turned it all around by responding, “U look really nice in your icon. What do you use to whiten your teeth like that?”
Within two minutes, the hater responds that he’s “usually nice, just a little sick right now” and adds that he likes Abdul’s facial hair and wishes he had some. They go on to have a convo about teeth whitening products and end it like they were old friends. The hater apologizes and Abdul tells him, “sleep well homie love u.” And the guy responds “love you too.”
The Internet was full of supportive comments to Abdul’s kind approach. He says he’s never talked to that guy again, probably because he changed his username after millions saw him being racist on social media, but maybe his positivity will help that guy respond differently in the future. It seems so simple, but his kindness is powerful, as one Twitter user puts it, “This is a superpower.”